Posts tagged abortion
Posts tagged abortion
How can someone stand behind abortion, when you have a life inside of you that God created for you? How can you say that this life isn’t worth it? If you can’t take care of the baby for whatever circumstances than there is always adoption available to couples who can’t conceive, but still want the joy of being parents. OPEN YOUR EYES! God has bigger plans for us all that we don’t even realize the picture.
Excuse me but it appears your baby is actually upside down
Did you take Sex Ed freshman year because babies come out headfirst
Hi, OP! As someone who was given up for adoption, allow me to call bullshit on your little post there! You see, when I was adopted, I was a white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical infant, which basically put me at the top of the list, right underneath white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical MALE infants! There’s only one kind of infant people wanted to adopt more than me! I was SOOO lucky! But if you actually bothered to look at the information readily available on the interwebs, you would be aware that the majority of people who are forced to rely on abortion for family planning are poor people and people of color. Of course, those two demographics intersect, thanks to the institutionalized racism of our society! Neat huh?!
Of course, even babies of color are not in high demand with couples looking to adopt. Many who do want to adopt outside their race choose to go outside the country, where laws are less strict and the process is often less expensive. Of course, most of the infants adopted this way are obtained in unscrupulous fashion, but who cares about that when you’re saving a little Korean or African baby from the horrible fate of growing up in Korea or Africa??? And all those children who have birth defects, are born with diseases or disabilities, or have other issues… WELL. Who wants to invest that kind of expense and time? Why would you adopt someone broken, LOLOL?!
Granted, there are some wonderful people who understand the system a little better, and make it a point to try and give POC and disabled children a good home. But they make up a very small fraction of potential adopters! This difference in supply and demand leaves a lot of children stuck in the foster system, where their chances of being adopted diminish with every passing year, and their chances of being physically or sexually abused INCREASE! Isn’t that wonderful?
And of course, we haven’t even talked about the person who is giving birth to the baby! I know you probably think pregnancy is a wonderful, happy time, and for some people it is, but it is also one of the greatest health risks a person can take. I love my son very much, and from the day I found out I was pregnant with him, I wanted him! But I also nearly died giving birth to him. You see, I had pre-eclampsia, the most commonly fatal birth complication in the world. My blood pressure was 180 over 130! At twenty-two years old, I was actually headed for a stroke, hah hah! How funny is that? And all it took was missing a single pre-natal appointment during which my blood pressure rose to dangerous levels and my body tried to kill both me and my son. Those seizures sure were fun, as was the emergency c-section performed without anesthetic! And being chained down while the operation was performed, because I was delirious and wouldn’t stop trying to fight off the doctors, that was a BLAST! It was great for my husband too, since he almost lost his wife and child in just forty-five minutes. You can imagine how thrilled he is at the prospect of me ever getting pregnant again. Babies are certainly cute, but pregnancy can have massive health complications, and I know it’s such a bummer, but they are PERMANENT. :( My abdominal muscles never recovered from being hacked through with a scalpel, and the flood of hormones caused by late pregnancy have changed things from heartburn (never used to have it, now, all the time!) to my emotional reactions (I cry when I see pictures of kittens now. I used to be tough). These are changes I did not ask for, cannot control, and cannot fix! And many people go through worse! I know, right? Unbelievable, but go look up the word ‘episiotomy’ and then look up ‘birth rape’ and I’m afraid you’ll find some stuff that just isn’t very shiny. Plus, the studies actually show that people who carry a baby to term, give birth, then give it up for adoption suffer HIGHER rates of post-pregnancy complications like post-partum depression and post-partum psychosis, general depression, and other mental health issues. Adoption actually isn’t good for the person giving birth at all!
I’m afraid the picture you chose to use there is also pretty disingenuous. I know, I know, it seems like nitpicking. I’m not trying to be mean! :( But that picture shows a fully developed, viable infant, and most abortions are performed when the fetus isn’t even a fetus - it’s a blastocyst. That’s just a clump of cells. Seriously! You can totally find pictures on the interwebs and they’re not even gross, LOLOL! Later-term abortions are usually performed because of health complications, though some of our intrepid state legislators are trying to change all that! They care so much about people who are pregnant, you see, that they want to force them to carry dead or dying fetuses inside them until their body either becomes infected while it rots in their tummies (this is called sepsis, and it makes people very sick, and can even kill them!), or forces it out naturally in a gush of blood and fluids! Isn’t that so caring of them? I’m so glad they’re around to make those decisions for me! And if a pregnant person is not allowed to terminate an unviable fetus, in some states, they have to carry the child to term, give birth to it, and then watch it die in their arms because its lungs weren’t developed, or its brain formed outside its skull, or any of a million possible birth defects that will kill you just as quick as lickity-split! Isn’t that wild?! Of course, these people go through terrible grief, and as I mentioned, some of them may get sick and die from not being able to abort dead or dying fetuses. But I guess that’s just A-okay with you, huh?
Basically, I think before you suggest adoption as a universal alternative, you should actually go do some research on adoption. And before you condemn abortion, you should do some research on abortions - not the stuff your church is giving you, the stuff the real doctors are saying. Go to Planned Parenthood (if they haven’t all been closed down, ROFLMAO!) and request whatever information they have on the process, the statistics of who has abortions and why… and actually, all of that is on the interwebs! Isn’t technology AMAZING?
And in closing, since I’ve been asked this question many times and I know it’s coming? Yes, I realize I am here talking to you because I was not aborted. But the thing is, if my mother had chosen abortion, I wouldn’t know the difference, so it wouldn’t matter to me. And if she decided that choice was best for her, then that choice would have been best for her, and I would never want to take that choice away from her. As it is, since I was given up for adoption, and since I have seen the statistics on how badly people who give their children up for adoption suffer, I have spent much of my adult life worrying about her, whether she’s healthy, whether she’s okay, and feeling that if she did suffer from any of the common post-birth symptoms, it is at least partially my fault, even though she made that decision on her own. Which is silly, I know, but at some point, all children have to stare down the consequences of their parents’ having them. For some, that’s poverty. For others, a life-time of their parents struggling to treat and care for a severe illness or disability. For others, it’s wondering if their mother ever got over giving them away, and wishing you could reach out and assure her that it’s okay, she doesn’t have to be haunted.
May your birth control never fail!
Sonneillonv deserves a mother fucking standing ovation here.
I get really mad when cis men get upset because they don’t get a say in whether or not a women gets an abortion cause ~*~oh no i wanted that baby~*~
you dont fucking have to carry around for 9 months, have to deal with the pain of giving birth, possible die in the process or have the effects it…
This is not murder.
This times 6 million is not the Holocaust
This time 50 million is not the Holocaust
A clump of cells smaller than your pinky finger cannot experience pain or fear.
A fetus is not hunted down, terrorized, starved, and tortured before it is aborted.
If you compare a fetus being aborted to the Holocaust, you are spitting on every person who died in a concentration camp, and ever Rroma hunted down and murdered, as most weren’t even deemed worthy of imprisoning.
Your racism is showing, and it’s fucking disgusting.
Planned Parenthood is holding a protest against House bills 5711-15713 in front of the capital starting at 1 pm.
This is the worst anti-choice bill in the country. Stand up for Michigan women! stand up for choice!
A Georgia state senate committee has voted in favor of a so-called “fetal pain” bill, a measure that would narrow the legal window during which women can legally obtain an abortion by six weeks.According to the Atlanta Journal-Constitution, House Bill 954 would “tighten medical exemptions for terminating pregnancies and require any abortion performed after 20 weeks of pregnancy be done in a way to bring the fetus out alive.”
The measure alleges that at 20 weeks a fetus is capable of feeling pain and therefore it must be protected by the state. Democrats, women’s groups and medical professionals have lobbied hard to defeat the measure. Democratic legislators requested that the committee recount the votes by hand, a motion that committee chair Renee Unterman (R-Buford) overruled.
Any attempts to determine fetal gestational age will require a transvaginal ultrasound, the invasive procedure that featured prominently in a controversial Virginia anti-abortion law. Also, under the new law, physicians performing abortions after 20 weeks of pregnancy can be charged with a felony and face up to a decade in prison.
Oh my god. No preemie has ever survived before 21 weeks and 5 days, and that was after weeks of aggressive interventions, in a country with universal health care (Germany), and her twin died, born at the same time, died.
Fetuses don’t have the capacity to breathe air until after 20 weeks! They’re proposing removing a largely unconscious, possibly anesthetized being that is almost certainly unable to feel pain until at least 24 weeks (possibly even 35-37 weeks) gestation, and subjecting it to weeks of intense interventions not even guaranteed to help it survive? Seriously?
Georgians, contact your senators and representatives. It’s not too late. Find out who they are here. Don’t let this pass!
When you hear that a woman gets an abortion, you go nuts about the fetus having rights. You feel sorry for the poor baby. You feel angry because the baby was done injustice. It’s about the baby.
Taking the trigger word here (abortion) out of the equation, it becomes a little more clear what you should think logically.
When you hear that a woman has a miscarriage, you feel sorry for the woman. Not the baby, because it was just a medical fluke. The baby hasn’t happened yet. She can try again.
The only reason you feel that way about abortion is because you’re too damn misguided and emotional to see that it isn’t actually hurting anyone.
Beautiful comparison. ~ Steve
I think we can all agree that in both situations the person undergoing the miscarriage or abortion SHOULD be who it’s all about.
[An image shows a message from Facebook letting a user know that they removed the content shown below. The content is a list of instructions on how to induce an abortion before 9 weeks of pregnancy.
“Do you need a safe abortion? (till 9 weeks of pregnancy)
Go to the pharmacy, buy 12 tablets of Misoprostol.
(say its for your grandmother with arthritis)
(or go to www.womenonweb.org)
1 - Put 4 tablets under your tongue
2 - After 3 hours put another 4 tablets under your tongue
3 - After 3 more hours, put another 4 tablets under your tongue for a third time.
Within 4 hours you can get cramps, nausea, chills, diarrhea, bleeding. If you soak more than 2 maxi sanitary pads per hour for more than 2 hours; if you have a fever or severe pain you have to go to the doctor (you can say you had a miscarriage). After 3 weeks do a pregnancy test.
More info: www.womenonwaves.org”]
via Jessica Valenti’s Facebook page (
I asked for permission to post this to Tumblr and have yet to see a response, so well, I think it’s important so I’m just gonna do it anywayEdit: got the ok to post it today!).
These instructions (from Women on Waves, a fantastic organization that helps people capable of becoming pregnant in countries in which abortion is illegal) on how to induce an abortion at home before 9 weeks of pregnancy were removed from Facebook. Apparently, rape is totally cool with Facebook, but helping people makes choices about their bodies? Nope. Not ok.
Anyway, the instructions are great, although a friend of mine added that you might want to wait 4 weeks to take a pregnancy test, otherwise you might get a false positive. Please spread this around so that people in countries in which abortion is illegal can access this information!